The New Truth About Love: Why Pretending to Be Monogamous Is Hurting Us More Than Polygamy Ever Did
1. Love in the Age of Pretending
We live in strange times. A man having two wives used to be a sign of maturity and responsibility—an accepted part of African marriage culture andtraditional polygamy in Africa. Today, it’s a scandal—unless you’re lying about it. We’ve traded tradition for trends, and now both men and women are miserable, pretending to be monogamous while secretly juggling “options.”
Let me say it plain: I’m not here to glorify cheating. But I am saying—what if the lie of modern love lies is worse than the so-called sin?
Take Ronaldinho, the Brazilian football genius known for his Ronaldinho polygamy or double dating story. He quietly got engaged to two women and moved on like it was nothing. No chaos, no court battles, no social media bloodshed. Just clarity. And peace. How many men can say the same? In Africa quite a number actually.
2. The Lie We’ve Been Sold
We’ve been told monogamy is “true love.” Anything less is failure. But look around. Side chicks are mainstream. Married people are sleeping with singles, singles are messing with other people’s partners, and almost everyone is faking it.
Meanwhile, our African traditions—which once embraced polygamy in Africa as a cultural truth—have been shamed, colonized, and declared “backward.” Funny thing is, even as we mock polygamy, we silently allow its ghost to operate behind closed doors—through cheating, ghosting, and DM games.
What’s worse? A man with two honest wives—or a man with one wife and three secret side chicks? This is the real question in the debate of polygamy vs cheating in relationships.
3. Polygamy vs. Cheating: Which Is More Honest?
Let’s talk facts. Ronaldinho made it clear from the start. Two women. No lies. They know each other. They agreed. And life moved on.
Compare that to the average man—promising his wife the moon while sneaking around with half the stars. And women? They’re not innocent either. “What a man can do, a woman can do better.” So now we have revenge cheating, secret affairs, and emotional affairs. We’re in a cold-blooded war of the sexes—disguised as modern love.
Truth is, everyone is hurting. But few are honest about what they really want. This is the core challenge of relationship honesty in today’s world.
4. A Quiet Relationship Crisis
Let’s bring it home. In Africa, we face skyrocketing single motherhood, DNA fraud, sugar daddy epidemics, and whisper-level femicide. We’re in a cultural identity crisis, caught between African traditional polygamy and imported ideals of monogamy that don’t fit our biology, economy, or culture.
Traditional marriage was a communal thing—elders guided, families were involved. Now? It’s Instagram captions and secret tears. Well… DNA testing was nearly banned recently in some African country because it threatened to expose just how deep the dishonesty runs. Suddenly, the future of children growing up in supposedly loving homes became a serious concern. Even science has become inconvenient when it challenges the fragile veil over relationship honesty.
5. What If We Stopped Pretending?
Let’s be brutally honest. Some men aren’t one-woman men—and they know it. Some women have the libido of rabbits (yes, I said it)—and they know it. But instead of owning it, we pretend, shame, and explode later.
What if, instead of faking monogamy, we built honest, custom-fit relationships that actually worked for the people involved? You can’t force loyalty—but you can build trust if you’re transparent. And believe it or not, two women sharing a man peacefully isn’t impossible. It’s only taboo because of how we were trained to see it. This is the cultural truth about African love we need to rediscover.
6. The Way Forward: Build What Works, Not What Looks Good
This is not a call for chaos or careless polygamy. It’s a challenge: stop pretending to be something you’re not. If you’re a one-woman man, good. Stick to it and honor it. If you’re not, then stop selling fairy tales you can’t sustain.
And women—if you demand honesty, be ready to receive it. Don’t punish truth-telling with drama, then wonder why men lie. Same goes for men.
Let’s be real—women also deserve an honest outlet for a high libido without shame or double standards. Remember that little gate in the African compound? The one your secret lover would slip through while your husband whistled at the main gate to warn you of his arrival? We’ve been improvising truth for generations.
It’s time to stop the pretending. Let’s build what works, not what trends. Let’s admit our ancestors may have known something we’ve forgotten—that managing multiple wives was often less destructive than living multiple lives.
7. Final Thoughts: Honest Love > Perfect Love
Real love isn’t about looking perfect. It’s about building peace and order—for all involved.
You don’t have to copy Ronaldinho. But maybe we can learn something from his way. Because in the end, we don’t need perfect love. We need honest love—and the guts to make it work.
💬 What Do You Think?
Would you rather be the only one in a lie…
Or one of a few in the truth?
Drop your comments below. Let’s talk real.
