PART 1 — What Actually Happens in Modern Relationships
Let’s be honest: dating today feels less like romance and more like two people negotiating a business merger over cocktails. Everyone is pretending:
- Men pretend they are billionaires.
- Women pretend they are natural blondes.
- And both pretend they are emotionally available.
But beneath the filters, the gym selfies, and the buzzwords like ‘“God-fearing,” “ambitious,” “sapiosexual,” “financially stable,” everyone is asking the same silent question: “What can I gain from this person?”
1️⃣ The Conditional Love Economy
Love used to be: “I love you because God joined us.”
Now it’s: “I love you because your Wi-Fi password works and you’re not broke… for now.”
Relationships have become transactional:
- What car do you drive?
- What job do you have?
- Do you rent, mortgage, or suffer?
Some people even say:
“I’m not dating for love, I’m dating for stability.”
Translation: “Your wallet is my soulmate.”
📖 Scripture Check:
“For the love of money is the root of all evil.” — 1 Timothy 6:10
Funny how love left the chat once money became the root.
2️⃣ The Social Climbing Olympics
Modern coupling strategy:
“Date someone who upgrades your status like a software update.”
This is why dating apps feel like LinkedIn with thirst traps.
Women want men who look like:
- Tall
- Handsome
- Loaded
Men want women who look like:
- Curvy
- Beautiful
- Low mileage (whatever that means)
Even Adam and Eve didn’t have this pressure.
Eve didn’t ask Adam:
“What’s your five-year financial plan, babe?”
“Do you own the Garden or are you just caretaker level?”
3️⃣ The Billionaire’s Son Scam (True Story)
There’s this guy on YouTube who:
- Pretended to be a billionaire’s son
- Dated multiple women
- Convinced them to take out loans for him
- Then vanished faster than unlimited texts did
The women cried, not because of heartbreak……but because the bank doesn’t accept tears as repayment.
Moral? Gold digging works both directions.
Men exploit beauty.
Women exploit money.
Then everyone cries to God:
“Why is love hard???”
And God is like:
“I gave you hearts. You keep using calculators.”
4️⃣ The Trial Marriage Culture
Dating today is like a car test-drive:
“Let me use you until I find a better model.”
If you can’t cook? Left.
If your Instagram followers are suspiciously low? Left.
If you don’t look the same after swimming? Emergency brake.
And somehow:
Everyone wants loyalty without commitment,
Marriage benefits without the vows,
Love without sacrifice.
📖 Scripture Check:
“They have become lovers of themselves… rather than lovers of God.” — 2 Timothy 3:2–4
So now, people date based on:
✔ aesthetic
✔ status
✔ convenience
✘ character
✘ patience
✘ real love
5️⃣ The Disposability Mindset
Before, breakups were tragic. Now breakups are:
“New month. New partner. New phone case.”
People treat relationships like:
- Amazon returns
- Phone upgrades
- Netflix trials
And when things get tough?
“Why fix it when someone better is one swipe away?”
God made rib connections. We made Bluetooth connections —they disconnect when you walk too far.
📌 Reality Summary
Modern relationships often look like:
| Aspect | What People Claim | What They Actually Mean |
| Love | “I want a God-fearing partner.” | “…who also fears poverty.” |
| Compatibility | “We have chemistry.” | “Your lifestyle benefits me for now.” |
| Future | “Let’s build together.” | “Build me while I browse options.” |
| Breakup | “We grew apart.” | “I found someone cooler.” |
The Divine Eye-Roll
If God were writing today’s relationship scripts: He’d need comedy writers.
Because humans took something sacred…and turned it into a marketplace.
Yet we’re shocked divorce rates are high?😑
You can’t build a lifelong covenanton temporary desires.
If this tone, structure, and blend of humor + scripture is good, we proceed smoothly into Part 2 — Why We Self-Sabotage Love.
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